Fail with Grace

Currently I work in Optical, I used to work in  a law firm – corporate law.  During my time there we hired a young lady for one of the positions that had been vacated.  It was a very interesting experience to watch this young lady struggle with learning.  She didn’t take direction well at all.  She won’t or doesn’t read the notes that were typed up for her to follow and the first words out of her mouth are always “I know”…..and yet, clearly she doesn’t know.

The position this person has taken over is in the Family Law area.  This area requires focus and attention to detail.  Children’s lives are at stake in this area, the future of marriages and the dynamics in the homes of many people.  In other words, this position requires her to be “on the ball”!

Despite the meetings and the offers of help, she continually trips up every single day.  Everyone around her is frustrated from trying to teach her.  She alienates herself from the group as well, unfortunately doing everything wrong.

If you were ever in this situation at any time in your life you may or may not see yourself in this picture, even for a moment!

To the frustrated people around me, I try to give her accolades for showing up day after day, even though she is in hot water more than she’s out of it.  It seriously takes some intestinal fortitude to keep showing up.

To the young lady or man who is reading this and is sooooo not open to advice (you know who you are) and to those of you finding yourself in this picture….

Here is a piece of advice I’d like to give you…, I don’t know you, but sometimes that is even better.  Fail with grace!

What do I mean by that?  Admit your mistakes, say “I screwed up”, it gives you permission to make more mistakes and people will have way more respect for you than if you try to hide it.  If you’ve never done the job before, how are you supposed to know.  This is all under the assumption you didn’t lie on your interview.   (That’s for another day.)

The greatest gift you can give yourself……… is to give yourself permission to not know it all.

This is easier said than done but once you do it, it gets easier and its a better way to live.

Growing as Gracefully as Possible!

Be Brave!


Sundays are for Rejuvination!

I love Sundays! It’s the day I give myself permission to chill! It’s my day to feed my soul. It’s also the day I get to do any fun things I like to do. Since I am working full time and building my business on the side, there isn’t always a lot of downtime for me but SUNDAYS!!! Yaay!

As a child growing up I always attended church on Sundays. I no longer attend church regularly, there were some not so fun incidents in my life that turned me away from church, but not from God or the spirituality I so love and enjoy. Attending church is not something I necessarily miss, however, it did instill in me the need for a day of rest. A day to recharge, reflect on the week prior as well as prepare for the week coming up.

A wise business man once told me “If every day is a work day then you don’t need to get anything done on the work days” Rest is important. Rejuvenation even more so. In order to be effective, you must rest.

What do you do on Sunday’s? Do you attend church? Do you prepare for your week ahead, have dinner with family? Whatever it is, I do hope you take time to enjoy your Sunday. Everyone needs a day of rest so do that, at the very least.


Making it up as you go???

I hear some version of the above statement from entrepreneurs and business people/executives all the time, especially those at the very top.

It doesn’t matter what your profession is, or if you are an employer or entrepreneur, or solo-preneur, at some point in your career,there is that limb that you just have to go out on.  Being brave above our experience, is part of the initiation into life. 

Out on a limb.

Look, we are all pretty smart people, we’ve learned a lot through both our wins and our failures, from people mentoring us and from us passing that on and mentoring others. Rarely are we born with intuitive leadership skills.

As leaders it is impossible to be ready for every outcome.  Leaders have nothing more, than the guts to go into the unkown, and the wisdom to appreciate what they don’t know.  They learn and continue to learn, always accumulating, never stopping.  Reading,listening and growing along the way.

 We don’t actually talk about this enough.  Everyone feels outmatched at times; everyone grapples with some version of ‘imposter syndrome’. However, we tend to suffer alone silently hiding it like some embarrassing secret.  Like so many things though we are usually in good company.  Nobody’s saying what they feel, even though everyone is feeling the same thing!

So lets’s say it!

Be Bold, Be Brave.

 I have learned to say it all the time, often the person or persons thank me for being so honest and open, because most are feeling the exact same things and hiding their feelings.

Everyone is making it up as they go.

We are not alone!

When we feel intimidated or worry we’re not up to a task or feel at loss for the right answer, let this be our guide:

      Nobody inherently belongs.

      Nobody is ready from the start.

      Nobody has the answer already prepared and….Nobody sees  you as an    imposter any more that they see themselves that way.

Let’s give each other permission (without judgement) to learn in a way best suited to them. The best we can do, is appreciate the feelings, share them, and have the courage to step into the arena anyway.

We learn as we go!  Enjoy the ride, help others along the way!

Be Brave